Friday, January 24, 2014

Dealing with Rejection

Rejection comes in many ways, weather it be between you and a significate other, a job, acceptance from potential friends, family members, work, career, school, students, teachers, priciples,pets, animals, pretty much anything or anyone can reject you. Its all with how you deal with it, if you blame yourself all the time you are really only beating yourself up, and if you beat up yourself too much how can you expect others to not reject you, when you can't even believe in yourself. I have been facing this for months, I have made claims trying to come out of this depression, but I really haven't. When you beat yourself up to the point where you are depressed even with someone else guiding you and trying to make you drink water, you won't. Depression is a serious matter that no one can make you over come, you have to do it on your own. If you go to a therapist all they will do is shove drugs down your throat, and try to force feed you the water or else you will go in a nut house. I know I had a therapist once who made those threats to me, he was terrible at his job.

To me the only happiness is knowing I made some sort of difference in the lives of others. I am not looking for your pity, or your sympathy, or your encouragement, I am not talking particularly about anyone online, because that isn't a real difference to me. A real difference to me is the people I know, making a difference in their lives, not of some reader who might find this one day.

I grew up in the subverts of Detroit, a couple miles out of Detroit, not gonna state exactly were, just don't want to. Detroit has kinda always been in this depression, which the federal government keeps ignoring while the local government lies about unemployment rates, suicides, murders, and homelessness. If you want more reliable information about this, you would have to see Detroit itself, and some of the surrounding cities. Talk with the locals and you will find out quick how bad political corruption is, even the homeless without computers, tvs, eletricity, a roof over their heads know because its been going on for a very long time.

I was never the talkative type in school, I would like to get straight to the point about anything and everything. Often I would find people who would try to dodge my questions, and usually for me it was easy to tell their intent so I would lay out my cards and they would come clean, because I didn't care about formalities when it comes to talking. You can imagine how someone who is straight to the point is viewed from others, especially if they don't care about the current fad, the current most popular songs, the current anything. So in school I had very little of what you would call friends, I wouldn't call them friends, just people I talked to, unless I would visit them out side of school then maybe they would be friends. Didn't meet too many girls that were not always dating some guy unless they were lesbian, and even then I would try to flirt with them. Me flirting was a sight to be seen, it would only happen when all the planets, plus our moon aligned causing a solar eclipse.

Once you leave your highschool life, and you have only had a few girls ever even consider go out with you, are boned, and bound to be depressed. It really isn't my own fault if girls didn't find me attractive, hell I had a few guys flirt with me but I wasn't interested in guys, that was my fault too some degree. I found party people saying my standards were too high, I would laugh and say what standards, I actually had none other than it be a girl.

The reason I say once you leave highschool your boned is that is when most girls get a reality check that the real world doesn't work exactly like highschool does. Many get knocked up, some go on to college and are either dating people at college or people they met online. If you go back and look at your class and how many girls are available after highschool you will find barely any if at all are available at all ever. So you get this reality check that if you don't have a girl by 20, that you will either have to go for a older one or get very lucky.

You will probably like I did look up many guides on how to even ask a women out, in which a stereotypical douchebag will try to tell you that rejection never happens so long as you follow his guide in which is typically horse crap. Don't listen to those stereotypical douche bags, because they seem to tell you how to get with easy people, not people ready for a commitment just quick fun, and throw away people. They also try to tell you all women are the same, and look for the same traits and qualities, when that is simply not true.

You will also desperately be trying to get a job, if you already have one guess what you will never run into this problem that I have. If you actually try you will find a job quickly, mean while if I look for a job I will get rejected regardless of all my education, all my abilities, and all my time wasted volunteering/unpaid internship. The only source of income I get right now is from taking part of game development events, the very little I make a month making these blogs & youtube videos, doing seasonal based jobs like shoveling snow, mowing lawns, and fixing peoples computers. Only pays the bills, in other words rent.

Its not that I am not trying, I fill out several applications every day, only have gotten scam calls, or pay on comission jobs in which doing research into those jobs they don't actually pay their employees at all its in their contracts somewhere that if they do not sell the EXACT quota they don't get paid at all, and things like that. I really am stating to think I am blacklisted from employment, which is illegal but I wouldn't doubt if that is some how the reason why.

Along with that 6 months ago I earned my associates of Applied Computer Science IT,before I graduated from high school I earned eagle scout as well in the BSA. I still can't even get a burger flipping job, that requires less than a high school diploma, I haven't been able to get in anywhere even with help from people I knew at schools.

So right now I am not entirely sure how to face all this rejection, but I know I have to take it all in at one step at a time, and stop blaming myself, blame those who reject me. I have had several work places that tried the whole, I am sorry apologetic approach basically trying to make me feel worse, some of them pointed out that I shouldn't hold it against them, telling me its my fault basically when its not, it was theirs..

Depression changes you, it changes everyone, I am not the same person I was when I was in highschool nor was I the same person just a few months ago. Its all because I let these companies fool me into beating myself up and blaming myself. I will start for now on boycotting all businesses that reject me, because to these companies 1 person doesn't matter they can trample them all they like. That is how I will handle this, they want to send all our jobs overseas, boycott them. They want to hire children, and not adults who actually qualify and desperately need the jobs and only accept the children because they can save money on paying them less because they work less boycott them.

You walk into a governmental job agency that refuses to actually help you and just forward you to companies that have you spam apply online that really only gets shoved in some spam folder by another company and thrown away.  Those governmental agencies are not actually doing their jobs at all and they are being paid to do nothing, like Michigan Works, doesn't do their job. Most of the people go in there to collect unemployment as well which only raises taxes which makes employers pay us more, which motivates them to put our jobs overseas. Often those companies that they forward you to apply online with take your personal information and sell it as well for you to be spam called by some marketing departments of another business trying to sell you, or scam you on your cellphones, and target marketing. Collecting unemployment it is only harming everyone else in reality and the system is being abused still same with welfare.

If enough people actually took it out on the companies in a way that hurts their pocket books, then they would think twice from rejecting someone entirely. I look at it this way, if they tell you a job isn't available here, they should try to help you into another position, or the same position else where under the same company. If not they are not trying to improve their own business as a whole. This actually was the main reason for the depression that happened in the US, but it still remains in Michigan, is because they rejected us the American people with our higher than minimum wage jobs and moved as many jobs as they possibly could to save nickles and dimes, having us all fight over the lowest of the low jobs just to make a surviving, but not all of us can have jobs because of this. There is less jobs then people its math, and those who have jobs can find jobs easier then those without.

Detroit is the central nerve of this state, if its doing bad the whole state feels it. All the highways are connected to it in some form or another.It goes down the whole state feels it.

The reason for the depression in Michigan is all its jobs were outsourced starting with the car industry, and the few jobs here left is a fight to the very end to get into a job, even terrible scam jobs that you know you won't be paid at the end of the day, dam near impossible to get. As for me I aint that lucky. IF we don't start boycotting these companies that outsource our jobs or are not hiring here then Detroit will always be in a depression and it will be only worse for future generations.

Don't let your city end up like Detroit and state end up like Michigan , tell these business's to bring jobs back to the USA or face total and utter shutdown. We the people need to take it out on these companies, not us take it out on our self's. You want to take jobs out of our country so everyone is fighting for minimum wage jobs, then it is your fault not ours. Then we will shut you down since you want to harm us.

We need to stand proud, we need to be filled with courage, for if we don't do something drastic soon, this depression will just keep on going as they outsource more and more of our jobs with free trade agreements.

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